Mark Manson - book author
Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries.
He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net
Mark Manson is the author of books: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope, Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident, Love Is Not Enough, Mark Manson on Self-Knowledge, The Guide to Relationships, 3 Ideas That Can Change Your Life, Mark Manson on Happiness, Mark Manson on Relationships
In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
We live in an interesting time. Materially, everything is the best it’s ever been—we are freer, healthier and wealthier than any people in human history. Yet, somehow everything seems to be irreparably and horribly f*cked—the planet is warming, governments are failing, economies are collapsing, and everyone is perpetually offended on Twitter. At this moment in history, when we have access to technology, education and communication our ancestors couldn’t even dream of, so many of us come back to an overriding feeling of hopelessness.
What’s going on? If anyone can put a name to our current malaise and help fix it, it’s Mark Manson. In 2016, Manson published The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, a book that brilliantly gave shape to the ever-present, low-level hum of anxiety that permeates modern living. He showed us that technology had made it too easy to care about the wrong things, that our culture had convinced us that the world owed us something when it didn’t—and worst of all, that our modern and maddening urge to always find happiness only served to make us unhappier. Instead, the “subtle art” of that title turned out to be a bold challenge: to choose your struggle; to narrow and focus and find the pain you want to sustain. The result was a book that became an international phenomenon, selling millions of copies worldwide while becoming the #1 bestseller in 13 different countries.
Now, in Everthing Is F*cked, Manson turns his gaze from the inevitable flaws within each individual self to the endless calamities taking place in the world around us. Drawing from the pool of psychological research on these topics, as well as the timeless wisdom of philosophers such as Plato, Nietzsche, and Tom Waits, he dissects religion and politics and the uncomfortable ways they have come to resemble one another. He looks at our relationships with money, entertainment and the internet, and how too much of a good thing can psychologically eat us alive. He openly defies our definitions of faith, happiness, freedom—and even of hope itself.
With his usual mix of erudition and where-the-f*ck-did-that-come-from humor, Manson takes us by the collar and challenges us to be more honest with ourselves and connected with the world in ways we probably haven’t considered before. It’s another counterintuitive romp through the pain in our hearts and the stress of our soul. One of the great modern writers has produced another book that will set the agenda for years to come.
In Love Is Not Enough, Mark’s first Audible Original, listeners will follow five real people over the course of six months as they navigate messed up romantic situations, ranging from dating app addictions to marital affairs to absurd fantasies. At regular intervals, they check in with Mark, share their stories, and soak up some advice. As listeners follow these candid, funny, and moving conversations, they’ll learn how to stand up for themselves when they feel the most vulnerable. They will also will learn how our imaginations derail intimacy, and how our deepest desires can lead us into trouble, while also learning how to open up, and develop the courage to say and hear that necessary word, "no." Listeners will learn how to love. And will learn that love is not enough.
In this small report, I’ve put together three ideas that have influenced my life and which I believe can influence yours.
Idea #1: The Two Minds
Idea #2: How to 80/20 Your Life
Idea #3: Believe Not What’s True, But What’s Helpful
I didn’t come up with these ideas myself. If you look around hard enough, you’ll see them pop up in all sorts of places, from business, to NLP, to generic Self Help, to various forms of therapy.
This is just my take on them and some of the ways I’ve applied them. I hope you get something out of them.
Or put another way: the quality of our relationship with ourselves will determine the quality of our romantic relationships.
They may sound lame or cliche, but it’s actually a pretty practical realization. The way you treat yourself is the way you will naturally treat others and expect others to treat you. So if you treat yourself like crap without consciously knowing, you will expect to be treated like crap and unconsciously treat others like crap too.
In this way, unraveling our relationship issues is a deep venture into our own personal psychology and what makes us tick. That’s why I’ve written up a 25-page ebook on some of the psychological factors that go into the quality of our relationships and how we can improve them. In the book, you’ll learn:
* 3 emotional needs that we must all meet to remain happy in our relationships.
* The single most common way we screw up our relationships without even realizing it.
* A simple trick to communicate more constructively and prevent unnecessary fighting.
* 4 steps to resolving any relationship conflict without bitterness.